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For fellow pet lovers, the holidays are also a time where we can feel mixed emotions for our furry friends and family who are no longer with us. Animal connection with humankind has been in existence since before recorded history. As time progressed and as animals became domesticated to what we know them as today as our pets, many loving relationships have been formed. It is no wonder why we feel the connection and bond so strongly.
It has been scientifically proven that pets contribute with many benefits to us such as lowering blood pressure, decreasing cholesterol, increasing self esteem, decreasing anxiety and depression.
The simple act of stroking a pet provides our nervous system with the message of calmness. The laughter we have when watching a pet do something funny is one of nature’s best medicines.
I’d like to share with you 3 strategies that you can use as tools of support with feelings of grief and loss over the holidays.
Recognize that what you are feeling is real. You are not alone and there is support available. The acknowledgement of sadness, sorrow, anger and other emotions is key in healing. Your feelings are validated and are okay to feel.
At times with social stigma, pet loss may be looked upon in a different category than with what societal standards would label otherwise. Some people have commented that “it’s only a pet” and perhaps it’s time to “get over it”.
When it comes to true grief and loss, this takes time. Sometimes it’s a short period of time and other’s a longer one. The important thing to focus on here is how YOU are feeling. Your feelings are what are important. There is no difference between an animal, a person or an object. When a meaningful attachment has been removed, the emotional connection remains the same regardless.
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The grieving process takes much longer than 3 days and we have become accustomed by society to move on quickly. Grieving takes time and this gift of recognition provides us the opportunity to allow healing to take place. This is the very first step in the healing process.
Surround yourself with a supportive environment. Having loved ones such as family members and friends that are supportive to you is something that can provide a safe place for healing.
If your immediate surroundings are not conducive to a supportive environment, connecting to a support group or online community is available to you. There are many pet loving organizations and populations that come together in support of one another in the love of animals. These are like minded people who have also experienced grief and loss and many of them are currently experiencing it. By surrounding yourself with this embrace of support, you will find there is something that can be of great assistance during this time.
The Power of Pets (www.Facebook.com/thepowerofpets) is an online growing community who unite together and celebrate our pets both past and present. We recognize the many gifts we receive from our pets and messages of inspiration are posted daily. We also focus on memorial tributes and how our pets have given us many rewards. We share our thoughts and feelings and all postings are welcome. This is just one example of an online resource available to you.
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Always remember, if you feel anger, sadness, frustration or depression, to honour that within you and know that those feelings are happening for a reason. You are grieving and emotions are a message to us and provide the opportunity to release and move forward in the way that we desire in our healing journeys. Give yourself the permission to honour YOU and your healing process. This is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves.
3. Giving Back
The saying “what goes around comes around” is most certainly true. When we give, we receive. And when we do this with the intention of love and goodness, it becomes a continuous circle of rewards. The time you have spent with your pet contains many gifts; unconditional love, laughter, friendship, safety and companionship. The essences of all these gifts remain with us and can be moved forward in memory.
Your pet is pure love. And the giving they present to you contains infinite and unlimited abundance. During the time of grieving, sometimes giving back can help in many ways. It keeps you busy, it occupies your mind and over and above all else, it gives the gift of helping another.
There are many ways to give back in the memory of your pet. Here is a list of some of these ways:
- Make a donation: A donation of time to a local shelter organization. A simple act of love to an animal in a shelter is worth gold. A monetary donation in the name and memory of your beloved pet can be wonderful ways of having their memory live on in helping others. Lastly, the donation of items such as bedding, toys and food can be helpful. Shelters are looking for these items every day. Many also accept Canadian Tire money as donations.
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